The dictionary’s definition of Single is:
adj. only one, not one of several.; unmarried or not in a stable romantic relationship; consisting of one part; free from duplicity; noun. an individual person or thing rather than the part of a paired group.
I was not always single. I am now. I did not always know I am complete without a partner. Or that someone can but should never be held to such a high prerequisite of being what I needed to complete me! I am free from needing someone. It took some time to learn these things. It took lots of focused prayer to understand who I was and to see God’s love for me displayed – to love what God created in me.
Some people use the two words single and unmarried interchangeably. Through my research I have come to find that there is a difference between the two. Recently I watched a study on Singleness presented by the late Dr. Myles Munroe. In his presentation, he said “singleness is a disposition of wholeness and unmarried is a state”. Singleness is an assessment of your entity – who you are.
In the Bible, the book of Genesis 1:27 and 2:7, says how God created man: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them” (Genesis 1:27 KJV).
“And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul” (Genesis 2:7 KJV). Adam was complete, whole and walked in his purpose. The proof that Adam was single and whole, was that he did not even know (he was alone), that needed anybody. The first thing God found wrong was that Adam was alone. God decided he needed a mate. Adam had no complaints; he was in his purpose! “And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18 KJV). It is okay to be single, it is not okay to be alone. We are not having an “alone problem”! God made another human to solve the “alone problem.”
Singleness is a state to be pursued. It is the key ingredient to relationships. It is the most important state of human development. It is the foundation for God’s plan for the human family. He began the human family with one human being – not a couple. All of God’s instructions were given to one human being. God forever established, “the foundation for all relationships is the Single.” It is more important to be single than to be married. If you are married, you ought to be single too! If you do not know who you are, appreciate and love who you are, you cannot appreciate or value other people. The most important pursuit in life is self-knowledge. Singleness is about finding yourself, loving, valuing yourself; putting the highest estimation, accepting, understanding, appreciating yourself so much that you can share yourself with someone else. That someone else is not necessary for you to be whole, you must be whole within yourself. The important thing is to become completely single in order to become one with someone else.
Manage your time, priorities, friendships, space, life’s purpose, intellectual development, body, value, spiritual life, life’s plan and your financial investments. Use your time becoming somebody.
Submitted By Raquel E. Colon